We often want people to cheer  lead us and support our dreams, to tell us that we doing good while patting us on the shoulder. We feel the need to be congratulated and showered with praise for our achievements, such that the absence of such praise demotivates us and makes us to feel as if we have sort of come short of brilliance. 

However that is not the case no one owes you encourage and praise that is your sole responsibility, you are your greatest cheer leader and you hold the responsibility of encouraging yourself. Remember other people can only do so much. The greatest demotivation that can derail you from greatest is relying on external motivation.

 Internal motivation as defined by Psych Central can be seen when a person undertakes an activity for its own sake without expecting any  sort of external reward. Internal motivation can result from our feelings for example happiness, anger, and sadness. thoughts (e.g., “I better finish the report before the deadline tonight.”), values and goals. This type of motivation can carry you even when everyone else does not have faith in whatever you are doing, it is louder than every other background noise. 

 The greatest liberation  you can ever attain is to liberate yourself from relying on peoples praise because it means the absence of "well done" from other people can deteriorate your confidence. More so another factor paramount to your sanity is to always assess the '"why" in everything you do because that will channel your expectation. Because at times the reason why we rely so much on other peoples praises  is because we are doing things for other  people not for ourselves and the disappointment that will comes  with peoples responses not meeting our expectations has the potential to breaking us. Thus today I say be your own motivator, Be your own cheer leader, be your own hero. Happy Friday.